In this parsha, Moses enacts a ritual that involves the entire community. He divides all the people into two camps. As he recites a litany of blessings and curses, half the tribes embody the former, and half embody the latter. Some stand for positivity, and some negativity.
As Moses did with the people, so do we do with individuals. We type them and label them: “detractors, naysayers, and complainers,” “helpers, optimists, and achievers.” Some people, we decide, have a positive influence in our lives, and some a negative.
But human beings are far more complex than that. The way someone relates to me is not the way s/he relates to everyone else. The sliver of a person’s being I get to see likely does not represent their entire humanity. Further, people change over time—the sense I got from someone years ago may not be who they are today; my encounter with someone who was upset this morning may have more to do with what they just experienced than who they are.
Still, it can be frustrating when the only aspect we see of an individual is negativity and complaint. It’s helpful to remember that that’s not the whole person.
More powerful still is to invert their negative energy. Can you see past their bitterness and consider whether their observations have merit? Can you share their passion but decline their negativity? Can you turn their “curse” into a “blessing”?
Ramblings of a rambling man. As I leave Auckland NZ for Tempe AZ, I hope to use this space to share some thoughts and pictures, and to stay in touch with friends and congregants--both old and new. Thanks for sharing the journey with me.
Friday, August 23, 2013
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Ki Titzei 5773
As a very young man, I sat at a plaza eating my lunch. I noticed a toddler crawling on the ledge of
a fountain several yards away. He
tottered, and I reached out to steady him – even though there was no possible
way I could catch him. In fact, dozens
of arms stretched out to him simultaneously.
It is human instinct to protect people in danger.
“When you build a new house, you shall make a parapet for
your roof, so that you do not bring bloodguilt on your house if anyone should fall
from it” (Deuteronomy 22:8). A parapet
is an extension of a wall that serves as a barrier on a balcony, roof, or
terrace. In ancient times, people would
sleep and work on the roof, and were liable to fall off if there were no
fence. More broadly, we have an
affirmative obligation to construct buildings that protect others from injury. We must add railings, fence pools, and post
proper signage to help prevent injury.
That fountain in Santa Monica was an injury waiting to happen, and the
city ought to have installed it more safely.
What of the individual’s obligations? Surely, no child can weigh the risks of
crawling on a ledge. But most adults can
be expected to consider the range of possibilities that might result from our
actions. Take, for example, texting
while driving.
It seems so innocuous – just a quick flick of the eyes, no
more impactful than changing the radio station.
Or we start a text while stopped at a red light, and finish it as we
roll through the intersection. We’ve all
done it a hundred times. What could
happen?
I recently watched a 35 minute movie called “From One Second
to the Next,” about four lives altered beyond recognition by texting while
driving. It was made by acclaimed
director Walter Herzog and funded by AT&T, Verizon, Sprint, and T-Mobile. It will put the fear of God into you – not
only for your own life and the lives of your loved ones, but also for the pain
you may cause inadvertently and easily.
Until watching that movie, I’ve been troubled by the Torah’s
formulation – “so that you do not bring bloodguilt on your house if anyone
should fall from it.” Surely, we should construct the proverbial parapet to
safeguard life and limb. But after
watching “From One Second to the Next,” and witnessing the pain of those whose
haste and disregard destroyed lives, I understand it a bit better. “Take precautions not to harm others and also
not to wrack yourself with unbearable guilt—legal AND emotional.”
Watch the movie at ItCanWait.com. There’s a “texting while driving simulator,”
and also a “no texting while driving” pledge to sign. We no longer sleep on our roofs. But whenever we drive, we hold other people’s
lives in our hands.
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